
If any of you have ever been a client of mine you know that the exercise and nutrition stuff I prescribe is pretty simple. It’s the Tony Robbins stuff that I do that will kill you. I want to briefly talk about something that I go into a lot more detail about in the updated Troubleshoot. I want to talk about the power of those who surround you, and how you speak to them and how they speak to you.
Now, like it or not, it’s true what they say about the company you keep. Let’s say though, that you do have good friends and know good people, even good people have bad habits. A very common bad habit is something that I don’t think any of us can say we aren’t guilty of, but it is something you should really keep in check. What is this I speak of?
Negativity.
I am not speaking of obvious negativity either. Rather, it should be obvious and if it isn’t then this article isn’t going to help you. What I mean by obvious negativity is being overly judgmental or critical of other people or yourself. Making fun of others, hurting others on purpose, these kinds of things. If involved in that well I recommend taking some even bigger personal stock because we all deserve better.
What I am speaking of is annoying negativity, sneaky negativity, DRAINING negativity.
For example, how do you describe your day to a friend or your family? Does the word “ugh” come out of your mouth a lot? Do you sigh often? Do you actually think you have good info to share when it is utterly depressing and gossipy?

Oh, and don’t get me wrong, I have been guilty of it myself. You don’t even want to hear about my teenage years. I just learned, and really recently, in life more and more about how my spin on a situation creates a mood. How “tone” can really guide your life and not only how others see you, but how you feel yourself.
What I want to do here is give you an example of the same situation but with two completely different approaches. And you can see exactly what I mean and how each makes you feel.
>>>>Starting Fake Scenario Sequence Now<<<<
(You have just sat down with one of your friends)
You: Hey, how was your day?
Friend: Good. I am starving though, trying to decide between the salad or the grilled chicken. How was your day?
You: It was okay, I was slammed at work today and again Gina was no help. All she did was slow me down. Then Larry my boss came in and told me that my report was great but that I had to fix some labeling errors. It only took me a few minutes to do it but it was frustrating ’cause I worked so hard on it and thought I had gotten it perfect. Then they transferred someone from marketing over to our department and I had to spend 2 hours training him to do something he should have known how to do. Other than that, not so bad oh and I had the BEST shrimp cocktail for lunch with this sauce that was AMAZING!
Friend: Oh really, I haven’t ever been a huge shrimp fan but maybe I just haven’t found the right sauce yet?
(Conversation continues from there)
Now you are likely thinking a few things…
-That this wasn’t so bad, maybe a little whining but seen much worse.
-You are that person.
-You are friends with that person.
-You didn’t see anything wrong with that at all.
-Well how are you supposed to talk about things that bother you?
The last question is a good one, because most people, even if they see how negative and whiney they are, can’t figure out for the life of themselves how to change it.
Let’s then re-visit this conversation and have a do-over.
You: Hey, how was your day?
Friend: Good. I am starving though, trying to decide between the salad or the grilled chicken. How was your day?
You: It was good. I was slammed at work today and while I can appreciate that I am awesome enough to do two peoples jobs, I do hope something is done about the lack of qualified help. Cool thing is though that Larry my boss came in and told me that my report was great but that I had to fix some labeling errors. It only took me a few minutes to do it and for a 40 page report that isn’t to bad. Then they transferred someone from marketing over to our department and I spent 2 hours training him. I hope since they thought I was good enough to do the training that maybe this means I might be moving up soon. To top it off had some amazing shrimp and a sauce that should be illegal to eat.
Friend: Ooh, you know Jenny in my office was training people before she got a promotion, I hope that works out. (Conversation contines from there)
Now look, you told the exact same information, you showed very clear how hectic your day was, how much you have on your shoulders, how certain things may not be fair, but you are up for the challenge because in the end you are the deal. Which person would you rather be? Which person would you rather be around?
Something to think about…
P.S. This has more to do with fat loss and getting in shape than you think.







