Disclaimer:Let me warn you that this is a very sensitive topic, I am a very straight forward person, and am going to be using common sense, scientific data, and life experiences. This is a very generalized topic and is not going to be true for everyone. Please continue reading with understanding that I am not judging or claiming a right or wrong. This is simply a read of human character.
I had a different post planned for today but I received such an email response to Friday’s post that I felt it necessary to touch on a readers concern. In short, the reader wanted me to address the issues of being the “fat partner” and it’s effect on you physically and mentally. I wanted to keep their identity private but highlight and start with a pretty truthful expression of human condition.
I still feel horrified on a daily basis even though he doesn’t persecute me or drag me around on his arm because I’m fat and he’s not. I still feel like I need to make up for being fat. And that because I’m fat I’m not marriable. I mean whenever you see someone on tv who has just lost a bunch of weight you always hear how they finally met someone who loves them beyond all measure.
People are getting fatter?
When you grow up in the land of buttermilk biscuits, sausage gravy, pecan pie, and tea so sweet it could fuel a car, it is hard to think that obesity is growing. I can’t remember a time where the majority of the adults I saw around me weren’t noticeably overweight. However, based on current research In the United States the prevalence of obesity for adults twenty to 74 years of age has increased from fifteen percent in the late 1970s to 32.2 percent in 2003-2004. From 2000 to 2005 alone, the prevalence of obesity rose 24 percent.
This kind of increase isn’t a small drizzle on social change; It is a typhoon effect of socialization. Obesity and its high rate of increase takes a few paths but ultimately the goal or social effect leads to acceptance. This isn’t acceptance just in dating, but in friendship as well. As our world and our eyes adjust, they adjust to a big belt size. One is inclined to say that it doesn’t matter as long as your healthy. The question is, is it that simple?
In this series we are going to look at a scientific and real world look at mixed weight dating.
Are overweight people less likely to be married? What are the other issues that one must deal with in a relationship of mixed weight? Does it really matter if a spouse gains fat overtime? These questions and more are going to be answered.
