Posts Tagged ‘body’

Stay out of the fridge you fat bastard


10 Feb

Let’s be honest, sometimes you need tricks to help you get by. Sometimes you need more than just that inner will power to help get you through. Most days you are going to have that “screw it” attitude until it clicks. Until that point comes here are 5 things to put on your fridge to help.

#1) A lock

It doesn’t matter if you have a combination or a key lock because nothing brings the taste of failure more the 10 extra secs it will take to undo it.

I know a lot of psychologist and fitness people who say that kind of thinking is what leads to having a problem in the first place. However, I am of the camp that says that nothing about dieting should become a way of life. We are too caught up in dieting being a way of life. Eating good foods should be a way of life. Losing fat, should be a short term torture you never have to endure again.

Get in, get out, and get a lock.

#2) An ugly picture, of yourself

That’s right, I want you to take the fattest, bad lighting, gut hanging out picture of yourself and then plaster it right there on the front of your fridge. No flexing. No flattering outfit. Yes, you can remove the photo when company comes over, but other then this you need to let it be out there. If you have kids or a husband/wife and really can’t bare them seeing it, then put it in your visor, by your vanity, or somewhere where you will be reminded of what makes you unhappy. Understand that there is a constant and nagging reason of why you want to change. Do not live in denial, that is what got you here in the first place.

#3) A beautiful picture of yourself or someone you admire

I want you to see the bad, but I also want you to be reminded of the good or enlighten to what is possible. If it is of yourself then it isn’t just the body, it is the mindset you had while in that body. Most of the time it isn’t the body that we want, it is the life we lived while we had it. Most people can’t have a bad body and a good life. It isn’t something they can wrapped their heads around. If you have never had that at all, then find someone who represents it for you.

#4) A non-body goal

It can be a place you want to travel to, or a physical activity you want to achieve. Whatever it is, it needs to be a constant reminder of what lies ahead that doesn’t have anything to do with what you look like.

#5) The excuse sheet

Every time you break the rules, every time you break down and give in, you have to write down why it happened on your excuse sheet.

“I broke down and ate because I was sad.”
“I broke down and ate because I was hungry.”
“I broke down and ate because the game was on and I just wanted to have fun.”

All are excuses, all are things you are trying to justify to yourself. All are reasons why this is being drug out for weeks, months, and years longer than it has to. With the sheet you will start to see a pattern and maybe you can find a way to end some of the triggers of why you keep giving up on yourself.

Winners of the “Body Fat Solution Essay” contest are…


10 Jan

First off, thank you everyone for writing to me and expressing how you feel.  The people who won weren’t necessarily picked because they had the “best” essay. Just as those who didn’t win lost because theirs weren’t good enough. I picked based on who, at this time, I feel would benefit most from Tom’s book and the way The Body Fat Solution was written.  With that said, the winners are…

Marcia

and

Sean

I left out your emails/last names to protect your identity, but please feel free to post comments here if you desire. You should get an email in a few minutes asking for your address. If you did not get one then PLEASE contact me through the contact form with your home or work address to receive your book.

I hope the book inspires you, and helps you make things click in way that might have not before.

Here are the winning essays.

Marcia’s Essay

In thinking about what the future means to me, I realize that it becomes a two
part question.  What has the future meant to me and what do I want the future to
mean to me?

I have spent most of my life being profoundly dissatisfied with myself.  I have
never been pretty “enough”, smart “enough”, thin “enough” or strong
“enough”.  Therefore, the future has always been the place I lump my
desires.  The present was when nothing was ever “enough” and so the future
was the time when everything would be “enough”.  The future was defined by
“after”: “after” I lose (more) weight, “after” I get my children
raised, “after” I learn to lift weights.  There was hope there and the
expectation that things would be better then.  All things would be better,
obviously, and they would be the way I imagined it.  All the things wrong with
“now” would be fixed and righted.  I thought this was the way to live—to
set goals and to improve yourself constantly.  I thought this was a good thing,
that trying to better yourself and strive for more, more, more was the answer to
leading a productive life.

However, as the years passed the future became more undefined, more gray, and
more murky.  And ironically, the future got closer.  It was no longer
“after” the children are raised;  it became “after” the holidays are
finally over, “after” the next birthday, “after” this busy week.  The
problem was that “after” was always followed closely by another “after”.
 I was struggling through event after event with the only goal being to get
things over with.  I was wasting my life in dissatisfaction waiting everything
to be over so I could make myself into who I wanted to be.  And while I made
progress towards who I wanted to be, it really was still never “enough”.

So what do I want the future to mean?  I want to consider the future
irrelevant.  I want to live in the present and learn to enjoy that, with all its
stresses and chores.  I want to be satisfied with who I am and how I am.    I do
not want to give up on goals or trying to better myself.  But I want to do it in
a way that is full of happiness and hope.  In a way marked with enthusiasm and
pride.  I want to be proud of not just where I am going, but of where I am and
of how I am getting there, and even of where I’ve been.  Most of all, I want
to better myself not because I hate where I am.  I want to better myself simply
because I can.  With that mindset, the future becomes simply a series of events.
Because my life would no longer be defined by the events, my life would be
defined by who I am.  And that would finally be “enough”.

Sean’s Essay

Future is an interesting word.  Interesting in the sense that it represents
merely a snapshot of what we hope to be, as people, given our current
circumstances.

Now (this point in time) is not the future we have predicted in days, months or
years previous.  It is not the static moment in time we usually envision it to
be.  It\'s an idea, a theory; a reflection of our true self.

Everyone wants to be better off.  That\'s a given.  However, there are plenty
of people who think the \"future\" is bleak.  Especially considering the current
economic situation or whatever it is that could be considered the \"doom and
gloom\" subject of the time.  These people view the future as a foregone
conclusion; fate.  A static moment in time.  A moment in time that fastly
approaches as each dreadful moment passes.

We all have people like this in our lives.  The subject matter of \"future\" is
subjective; it does not need to be of large scale.  

The husband who dreads returning home to his nagging wife.  The employee whom
only looks forward to that last second of work.  Only, when it arrives they
shift focus and look forward to that last moment of their commute.  When that
arrives, they look forward to the moment they can finally lay their head down.
The money-centrist who lives and dies, on a daily basis, with the swings of the
stock market.  Starting each day with an expectation.  Ending each day with
jubilation or dispair.

All of these people view the \"future\" as a static moment in time.  A moment
that one must only endure time itself to reach.  A moment that culminates and
passes.  This thoughts process speaks volumes about the individual.  It speaks
volumes about how they feel about themselves, their ambitions and others around
them.

I, however, chose to view \"future\" as an idea; a theory.  A simple
understanding that tomorrow I will be better then I am today.  Not by luck or by
fate, but by choice.  I will be better tomorrow because of the conscious
decisions I am making \"now\"; the present.  There will be challenges, obstacles
and set backs; that is a given.  But I have the utmost confidence in my ability
to grow, persevere and get \"better\".  Again, not by luck or by fate, but by
choice, because I have willed it so.

Most people view the \"future\" as simply the process of ascending the mountain
of life.  Markers along the trail.  Spots that one must reach and pass through
in order to attain the ultimate summit.  We don\'t get there \"one step at a
time\".  No.  We get there \"one correct step at a time\".  Those correct steps
must then be made with the utmost precision and dedication.  Everyday one must
make the right decisions in order to summit their own mountain.

Everyone has a different mountain to climb.  Different heights, inclines and
weather conditions.  It, however, is not a race.  Everyone summits their
personal mountain eventually.  However those who make the correct choices in the
present, instead of starring at the peak that we call \"future\", will get to
enjoy the view much longer then others.

Did you miss the boat?


09 Jan

Well I did, but that is another story.

What I hope you didn’t miss the boat on is Tom Venuto’s new book. If you for missed my video review of the book you can go here.

http://avidityfitness.net/2009/01/07/the-body-fat-solution-review-tom-venuto/

In the video I mention an essay contest and that two people will receive a copy of the new Tom Venuto book.
I got two books, hot off the presses, for you and all you have to do is tell me a few things. All you have to do is open up a little bit and share a little about yourself.

This essay isn’t about fat loss, it is about your life. Just as you had to in school I am asking you know to answer, is 200 words or more, one question.

What does “future” mean to you?

Please submit essays to me either in comments or through the contact form. You have 36 hours.

How to Use The Fat Loss Troubleshoot Package


07 Jan

I am one of those people that sometimes assumes people know exactly what I am thinking. I have recently released the new version of the Fat Loss Troubleshoot with all kinds of extras and goodies. The problem is you don’t know how to use them! That is my fault so I am going to rectify this right now. Before I give you the order, you first have to answer some important questions.

Why did you buy the package?

There are three main camps of people who bought the package. Which camp you belong in will depend on how you move through the system of manuals. While there is a wider selection then just this, I think you can find one group that you relate to on some level.

Group A
-Is new to nutrition and training
-Has been dieting for a while but doesn’t understand fat loss
-Is stuck in a plateau or rut
-Is having a hard time losing fat, doesn’t understand why
-Is looking to achieve lean body and healthy strength increase
-Is looking to understand basic levels of nutrition and training concepts

Group B
-Has been dieting a very long time
-Is recovering from an eating disorder or hoping too
-Has been training very hard and has hit a wall
-Has been dieting very hard and has hit a wall
-Has a problem with Thyroid, Diabetes, Celiac, etc

Group C
-Is a professional athlete
-Is a professional bodybuilder or fitness competitor
-Is looking to hit very lean and low levels of body fat
-Is looking for information on how to dry out for stage
-Is looking for information on how to make weight for class

Whichever group you fit with will determine what you would need to read and when. Please look at the outline below to determine that for yourself. I am numbering the books in order of importance for each group.

Group A

1-The Fat Loss Troubleshoot/Fat Loss Troubleshoot Audios

2-At this point you can either do the OPT for Fat Loss Program or
use a program of your choosing with the nutritional principles of the Fat Loss Troubleshoot and can utilize the pre-made meal plans for your caloric choices to pair with your training program. For example, let’s say you want to do New Rules of Lifting, but still want to apply the Fat Loss Troubleshoot principles. No problem, simply figure out your nutrition needs based on the books (FLTS) “Activity Quiz” and then pick the meal plan to correspond with your daily needs.

or

2-If you choose to do the OPT for Fat Loss Program then you simply follow the guidelines of that program (both in training and nutrition) and go from there. The meal plans are NOT for the OPT programs. They are for the FLTS to help guide by moderate principles.

At this point the choice is yours where to go, but here is an idea from my end.

3-The Metabolic Repair Manual-This will be good for you because you will learn how not to diet down and to keep at bay any problems. You may be free of problems now, but it can be very easy to get your metabolism in trouble with bad dietary and training habits. This is a great read to show you what not to do and prepare ahead.

4-The Water Manual-A good follow up to MRM and fun to learn how to drop water weight if need in the future.

5-The Maintenance Manual-While it may seem like it is a distance away for you, it is important to be reminded of the fact that finishing a diet can be a real thing.

6-OPT Remix-You may never need or want a training program like this, but if you are starting out and this is your future then its good to know how to handle it when it comes.

Group B

1-The Fat Loss Troubleshoot/Fat Loss Troubleshoot Audios

2-The Metabolic Repair Manual-While this is likely why you bought the package, you should still start out with the FLTS first. The Metabolic Repair assumes that you have read it or understand the information in on a large level. When you start on repair trust me, you don’t want to wonder what a carb is.

After reading those two, if the Metabolic Repair Manual fits for you then you may be on a different journey for a while and following REPAIR or Metaburn (the two programs within the Metabolic Repair Manual). If this is the case then the rest of the books will become important at a later date.

Group C

1-The Fat Loss Troubleshoot/Fat Loss Troubleshoot Audios-While you may think you know it all or have nothing to learn, I assure you as simple as the book is, it isn’t that simple. Sometimes things click better when we re-open the gateway of knowledge through different words.

2-OPT Remix-Once you get where your downfalls or slip ups can be, it’s time to start your program. OPT Remix lays out training and nutrition, so no need to utilize the meal plans for FLTS while doing the program.

3-The Water Manual-If a competition or photo shoot is coming up you will need to learn the best ways to manipulate water and carbohydrates.

4-The Metabolic Repair Manual-Just so you don’t get in trouble with your shredded body, and so you can keep it that way, you need to make sure to read the MRM. Its good to learn how dieting down to lean levels can affect you.

After that the rest is for either education/fun to add to your knowledge base.

I hope that this helps you better understand how to best utilize the Fat Loss Troubleshoot Package for your needs. If you have an questions as always feel free to contact me or head over to the JP Fitness Forums to the Fat Loss Troubleshoot Section.

Lastly, if you don’t have the package yet, you can find out more information here.

Mixed dating: The courtship of obesity


17 Dec

Disclaimer:Let me warn you that this is a very sensitive topic, I am a very straight forward person, and am going to be using common sense, scientific data, and life experiences. This is a very generalized topic and is not going to be true for everyone. Please continue reading with understanding that I am not judging or claiming a right or wrong. This is simply a read of human character.

In my previous post I started the discussion of mixed relations in the aspect of weight and how it affects a relationship. What better place to start than how you pick your mate?

The process of mate selection for human beings is different from culture to culture and has evolved with the ages. Long ago the majority choose a mate purely on the ground of livelihood. If your mate could feed you or have children that was good enough. That isn’t to say there wasn’t always a rebel or two that caused a uproar in the normal flow of things. However, the majority of the time people chose mostly out of safety, and at best for love.

Flash forward to a time of internet dating, mail order brides, maxim magazine, and Flavor of Love. I think you will find that things are a little different. Self independence and prosperity is possible for both sexes. The ability to have children isn’t dependent on a penis and a vagina. Lastly, food is everywhere in advanced societies so the need to find a mate based solely on those past needs are getting cut more and more everyday. If those aren’t leading the ranks of why we pick a mate, what is?

There are many factors that have to do with education and status. This has always been a factor and will continue to be so. However their are other factors and expectations they weren’t always such a big issue that now are. How you look, the health you convey, and the body you have is now a extreme contributing factor. Studies and survey’s around the world are showing time and time again that the weight and appearance of a person plays a very large role in if they are found to be dating material or not. The question is, why?

If you say because “fat people are ugly” you would be wrong. Studies show that it isn’t the physical attraction to the person that is the issue, it is the underlying factors instead. For example, one study shows that on average medical costs are 36% higher for obese adults than their non-obese partners. Other studies also show that those who are largely overweight make a smaller percentage of pay vs those who have a healthier BMI. Obesity is also highly prevalent in low educated households, and the children of obese parents have a higher likely hood to drop out of high school.

When we combine all that above this means that through one scan of the eyes the average person when on approach for dating material can see someone who is obese as unhealthy, uneducated, and not financially secure.  Obviously this is not true in all cases, but now if you find yourself in this position, not only do you have to worry about your own insecurities of being physically under par to yourself, you have to worry about your whole level of worth being judged from education to finance. Because of this overwhelming pressure, studies show that the mate you choose is going to be constantly less than your instinctual set standards because you feel that this is the best you can do. The cycle then starts of the problems in the relationship.

What about those of you who beat obesity or are in the effort of trying? Congratulations on not being able to shake your feelings of not being good enough, and the constant feeling of not living up to the standards of your counter part. Constantly those who are overweight will put “being fat” on the high list of problems in a relationship before they will put “living in self doubt.” Mixed couples fight more about cheating, have more short term separations, and will settle more in abusive relationships on average than couples who share in the same activities and physical physique. It is a lot more likely that one of you is nice and the other is a jerk.

The question is does this really have to do with your BMI?  No, not really. It isn’t about BMI, that is just a side effect. That is merely the scapegoat for the problem.  The problem is self worth and self esteem.  Usually those who were married pre-obesity have less problems than those who go into the courtship already overweight. With marriage there is a level of knowing what can be there again if desire or a deep understanding of the person in when they felt their best. Since the person saw the “real” you at a point, even if you are insecure now, there is still enough of you there in them that you are able to maintain a high level of happiness and trust. You live in the world of “it is just a matter of time.”

For those who enter into a relationship already overweight, since they drag in insecurities they already are hiding a part of their true self. Relationships that are built off of false pretense never work. What if that was the only relationship you could ever build because you were that unhappy with who you are?  If this sounds familiar then welcome to the courtship of obese dating.

Tips for surviving the world of obese dating:

#1-Lose fat…if you want to.

I am going to be honest, I have never met someone who wanted to be fat. I have met people who decided they didn’t want to try, that they were going to accept themselves for who they were, but at the end of the day would choose to weigh less. Maybe one day we will cross paths.

#2-Live as if you have achieved your goal.

If you live as a fatty, are depressed about it, cry about it, whine about it, then you are it. It is all you are and who wants to be around that. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. Your job is to live it until you are it.

#3-Demand respect.

I live my life by one motto. Demand respect. That doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole either, I am quite likable. I go out of my way to help people, I like people. I like the human race, sometimes. You don’t have to be a doormat to be liked, you don’t have to think the world is doing you a favor because you have short comings. Demand the respect you deserve and if you don’t get it then move on and fast.

Next up we will talk about Mixed relationships: For better or for worse

Big Meal Challenge: The Results and The Winner


16 Nov

I can’t believe it is over already! Man how time does fly when you are having fun and really this was a great time for me because I got to torture them.

First for those of you new to the game let me remind you how it started. You can find the first challenge post here.

http://avidityfitness.net/2008/10/17/action-assignments-for-new-life-and-body-the-challenge/

Caught up? Great!

I have a video coming up but wanted to get the Midnight results in. I had to wait on a last min check in so the video is coming and should be up by morning. Without further ado here are the final results of the challenge and my crew!

Holy Crap you are not going to believe these results.

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Nope, you can’t handle it yet….

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Okay okay fine….

Aleks

Was 233 Now 222.4

Total Weight Loss- 11.4
Bf% Lost-4.1%

Pauline Stats

Was 108.5 Now 104.5

Total Weight Loss-4 pounds
Total Inches Lost-5 inches
Bf% lost-1.5-2.0%
Push up Increase-From 3 to 16

Mike

Was 224 Now 220

Total Weight Loss-4 pounds
Total Inches Lost-9 inches
BF% Lost-4.5%

Karen

Was 129  Now 124.8

Total Weight Loss-4.2 pounds
Total Inches Lost-7 inches
Bf% lost-2.0%

Annelle

Was 151 Now 139.8

Total Weight lost-11.2
Total Inches Lost-8
BF% Lost-3.8%

AND THE WINNER WITH 22 POUNDS LOST IN 30 DAYS?!!

JIM!

Jim Stats

Was 241 Now 219

Total Weight Loss-22 pounds
Total Inches Lost-16 inches
BF% lost-5.5% body fat

I can’t believe it, more to come!

Edit: Here is the You Tube dedication Video!

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PS-Still more to come, I am off to bed!

The Fat Loss Troubleshooter – Leigh Peele

Common Sense Meets Advanced Knowledge