About a year ago I gave a poll to my reader list. I asked them “Why do you want to lose the fat?” It is a simple question that most have a hard time answering honestly. Be it 200 pounds or 10 pounds, there is always a reason why you want to lose fat. No one want to lose fat just “because” they don’t have anything better to do. If there is a person out there like this, run from them.

Right now I am sure you are running through your list and reasons for why you want to lose fat. I am sure most you feel can be deemed as noble (heath, family, career) and some of you feel ashamed of (an ex, bad high school tales, to score that hot date). Funny enough though when I did that poll I got this as my top response.

I don’t want to be the “ugly fat friend” anymore.

It cuts like a knife writing it. In truth, I feel mean writing it, as if I am saying something wrong. As if I am passing a judgment. However, I can assure you that very few people ever feel like the “hot and happening” friend that you imagine them feeling like.  Even if someone is happy with their body, their is always something. That being said, screw the PC bull and let’s get down to it.

You don’t really care much about the insecurities of others. You care about your own. This isn’t the last time I am going to touch on this, this is an important topic to me.  I hate, hate seeing people not reach their potential. One of my favorite movies of all times, A Bronx Tale, has so many good lines I can’t see straight. One of the best lines are “The saddest thing in life is wasted talent.” Nothing could be truer. Nothing is set in stone, at any moment we can move to better ourselves.

I have a bombshell to drop on you right now which is…

Losing fat CAN fix problems in your life. You just have to lose enough of it.

Making a statement like that is likely to bring a slew of angry rants my way, but bare with me for a moment.

When I say you have to lose enough of it, that means you have to lose enough of it for YOU. For some this is toting a “six pack” and for others it is having a nice round lovely lady lump. Some women look HOT “fat.” I am not one of them, I look really bad. I have a very week bone structure and a freakishly small head. It doesn’t work for me. Some guys look good with some roundness to their face. Some don’t. Sometimes people lose fat and realize they have gone too far and put a little chub back on, especially with age.

I am not suggesting getting ultra lean to solve your problems, but I am saying that it can help. With fat loss can come being more attractive and feeling more attractive can lead to more self esteem. You can’t begin to understand what that can do for you life. Being confident is a great thing and important to your future.  Don’t believe the bull, losing fat CAN help with that.

“It is what is on the inside that matters”

Most people say this and don’t mean it. The few people that do have likely settled and made a peace with life, their body, and what it has to offer. That is great, not knocking that at all. For the rest of us we know that the outside does matter. Now that we have resided to the fact that we need to lose the fat/keep it off, we have to wake up and acknowledge something else.

Tone/Muscle beat Flabby/Soft any day of the week.

When it comes to tailoring body composition you need to realize…

• What you want
• If what you want is what you can achieve

I think that Latino women are some of the hottest women that ever grazed the earth. Their olive complexion and more naturally round figures ooze hotness. I will never have that. Ever. I will never be a hot sexy Latino chick. I can however have healthy skin, thankfully I do have a good ass, and can train my body for more “ample” and defined looks.

You have to understand the difference between “I will never have that, so screw it” and “I will never have that, but I CAN tweak it to this.” Most people have all the means to them possible to never be “ugly” and lifting a little weight is a fast way to change that. At the very least they appear to care about themselves. That is a huge social plus.

You are what you see yourself to be.

If you see yourself as the ugly fat friend, I assure you, you will always be the ugly fat friend. If however, you stand up and tell your insecurities and inner doubts to go screw themselves, then you might not only be the “hot friend” but even the “hot, smart, and driven” friend.

Don’t allow others to see you as lower than them or else you will allow them to treat you as such. If you have a friend that see’s you like that, that thinks you are beneath them, and they like the self-esteem boost then I think you know what I am going to say to that.

They Suck, Move On.

Doing that, standing up for who you are, THAT is HOT.