Posts Tagged ‘fat’

What are you owed? What do you think you are owed?


23 Mar

I have a bunch of podcasts coming up. You would be so proud.

Today we have a special non-question podcast rant that I wanted to go off on about what we as people think we are owed in the area of fat loss.

Fat Loss Troubleshooter Speaks: What are you owed and how do you get it?

Question of the day:

Do you think the goals you have are realistic? What defines unrealistic? How much of realism do you think we should acknowledge and how much do we ignore?

Stay out of the fridge you fat bastard


10 Feb

Let’s be honest, sometimes you need tricks to help you get by. Sometimes you need more than just that inner will power to help get you through. Most days you are going to have that “screw it” attitude until it clicks. Until that point comes here are 5 things to put on your fridge to help.

#1) A lock

It doesn’t matter if you have a combination or a key lock because nothing brings the taste of failure more the 10 extra secs it will take to undo it.

I know a lot of psychologist and fitness people who say that kind of thinking is what leads to having a problem in the first place. However, I am of the camp that says that nothing about dieting should become a way of life. We are too caught up in dieting being a way of life. Eating good foods should be a way of life. Losing fat, should be a short term torture you never have to endure again.

Get in, get out, and get a lock.

#2) An ugly picture, of yourself

That’s right, I want you to take the fattest, bad lighting, gut hanging out picture of yourself and then plaster it right there on the front of your fridge. No flexing. No flattering outfit. Yes, you can remove the photo when company comes over, but other then this you need to let it be out there. If you have kids or a husband/wife and really can’t bare them seeing it, then put it in your visor, by your vanity, or somewhere where you will be reminded of what makes you unhappy. Understand that there is a constant and nagging reason of why you want to change. Do not live in denial, that is what got you here in the first place.

#3) A beautiful picture of yourself or someone you admire

I want you to see the bad, but I also want you to be reminded of the good or enlighten to what is possible. If it is of yourself then it isn’t just the body, it is the mindset you had while in that body. Most of the time it isn’t the body that we want, it is the life we lived while we had it. Most people can’t have a bad body and a good life. It isn’t something they can wrapped their heads around. If you have never had that at all, then find someone who represents it for you.

#4) A non-body goal

It can be a place you want to travel to, or a physical activity you want to achieve. Whatever it is, it needs to be a constant reminder of what lies ahead that doesn’t have anything to do with what you look like.

#5) The excuse sheet

Every time you break the rules, every time you break down and give in, you have to write down why it happened on your excuse sheet.

“I broke down and ate because I was sad.”
“I broke down and ate because I was hungry.”
“I broke down and ate because the game was on and I just wanted to have fun.”

All are excuses, all are things you are trying to justify to yourself. All are reasons why this is being drug out for weeks, months, and years longer than it has to. With the sheet you will start to see a pattern and maybe you can find a way to end some of the triggers of why you keep giving up on yourself.

Looking for writers/workers for new site


26 Jan

Most of you involved have already gotten emails about writing request and assignments. If you haven’t and you think you should have, seriously, email me. I likely sent it to you, but it got lost in your spam filters or that place where socks go.

There are going to be articles and interviews on this site from Alan Aragon, Mike Robertson, and Jamie Hale, just to name a few. There is also going to be a truck load of work from people who you have never heard of, and those who like to express their views and research they have found.

In short, it is going to be spectacular and I feel that to some degree my work online over these years has come to what this site is going to be. It is going to be big and best of all, free source knowledge.

Some people have asked “What is going to happen to your blog?” Personally, I see no need to change it. In fact, I am sure it will just get better. I would like to use it more and more for relaying more personal experiences, client work, and my life activities. I have a lot of dreams, I do a lot of fun things, and I love making friends with all of you. In a non-nerd way cause that came out kinda of nerdy.

This site is still going to be here, that wont change. The content, who the hell knows what I am going to do in the future. For now, especially until the new site launch, it will still be largely fat loss and research based stuff.

Writers

Here is what I am looking for, and how to submit your material if you want to be a contributor.

  • Original or revised/updated material.
  • Interesting topics/material. I don’t need a “How to get a six pack” article. I want a unique outlook and view with your material.
  • Quality researched material. Don’t think about handing me questionable or hearsay data. You CAN write an opinion/rant or anecdotal based article, just label it as such.
  • Your topic can be on anything health/fitness related. From Oly to supplements. From Dr. phil to Gray Cook, I don’t care what your topic is, but it needs to fit in the area of health and fitness or the business of professionals.  Beware and smart if the later ;)
  • No censorship on topic or discussion. If you have been wanting to say your piece to the fitness world, and have a bigger audience to do it with, then this is your chance.

This site is going to be a pretty big deal. The people I am working with and the power behind it is going to lead to a new level. What will make it so great is having the reader be apart of it as much as possible.

To submit work:Send your article title and a brief synopsis through the contact form here or to email address here.

Moderators

Currently right now I am looking for forum moderators for the new sites forum. The actual forum is still under construction, but will be launched with the site. Beyond just being a moderator you will also be responsible to getting the word out about the site and basically be a big support team for the members and the readers. It doesn’t pay and it will likely lead to much frustration with the human race at times. However, it is highly rewarding. I have personally been a moderator of 6 forums in my lifetime. Not all of them were fitness related of course.  I can say that I have seen forums grow, and I have seen them die. It is tough creating a thriving community. You need to have a love for it to work, but a soft hand to let freedom of thought reign.  Here are the current forum rules, and it will likely stay this way.

The rules of the forum:

1-No spam
-You will be removed.
2-No Active/Creative Spamming-Meaning that you joined here just to spam us, but are smarter about it. We know the difference. You will be removed.
3-No Porn-Sorry, but no porn allowed here folks.
4-No trolls or bigoted morons-If someone is here just to start trouble, is stupid, or being racist, homophobic, sexiest, or any other of that BS, you will be removed.
5-Try to play nice in the “general” areas-There are areas in which you can be as blunt as you want to. That is fine. However, in the general sections treat people with respect. You can argue, but do it with respect and intelligence. Try and use concrete data to back your arguments, not “I know you are, but what am I?”
6-Keep the correct topics in the correct sections-I realize that sometimes things blend over, that is fine. However, if you start talking about kinky sex positions in the mobility section, I am moving you.

Qualification for Mods:

  • Cool head. If you get overly heated and can’t get over yourself to keep a situation calm, don’t apply. Sometimes you have to swallow a little pride and anger to be a mod.
  • Understanding of basic message board functions. You don’t have to be a wiz at the internet, but understanding how to post pictures, edit posts, and work with basic forum functions is needed.
  • Not Easily Offended. Sometimes being a mod means seeing things or erasing things you might be sensitive too. This is also going to be a pretty colorful forum, I can tell already. That doesn’t mean it will be negative or mean, nor crude of disrespectful. Still, if you can’t take a joke or are on PC overload, this might not be the place for you. Understand I respect all walks of life, I just make fun of them equally.
  • Having the ability to set aside political and religious beliefs and accept others. In short, there will be Republicans, Dems, Christian, Buddhist, etc. If you can’t handle diversity, not for you.
  • Being able to play nice with others. Mods live behind “closed doors” and are bound together by the job they keep. It should be a way to get closer to each other and learn more about your fellow peeps. However, sometimes people just can’t play nice with others. No big deal, but no need to apply if that is the case.

To apply to be a mod, simple send a brief background of who you are, what you have to offer, and why you are better than others. In short, be interesting. Send it through the contact form here or to email address here.

That is all for now. I may need more help in other areas later, and I am still playing with editors and other help and support.

Mixed dating: Being the fat one in a relationship


15 Dec

Disclaimer:Let me warn you that this is a very sensitive topic, I am a very straight forward person, and am going to be using common sense, scientific data, and life experiences. This is a very generalized topic and is not going to be true for everyone. Please continue reading with understanding that I am not judging or claiming a right or wrong. This is simply a read of human character.

I had a different post planned for today but I received such an email response to Friday’s post that I felt it necessary to touch on a readers concern. In short, the reader wanted me to address the issues of being the “fat partner” and it’s effect on you physically and mentally.  I wanted to keep their identity private but highlight and start with a pretty truthful expression of human condition.

I still feel horrified on a daily basis even though he doesn’t persecute me or drag me around on his arm because I’m fat and he’s not. I still feel like I need to make up for being fat. And that because I’m fat I’m not marriable. I mean whenever you see someone on tv who has just lost a bunch of weight you always hear how they finally met someone who loves them beyond all measure.

People are getting fatter?

When you grow up in the land of buttermilk biscuits, sausage gravy, pecan pie, and tea so sweet it could fuel a car, it is hard to think that obesity is growing. I can’t remember a time where the majority of the adults I saw around me weren’t noticeably overweight. However, based on current research In the United States the prevalence of obesity for adults twenty to 74 years of age has increased from fifteen percent in the late 1970s to 32.2 percent in 2003-2004. From 2000 to 2005 alone, the prevalence of obesity rose 24 percent.

This kind of increase isn’t a small drizzle on social change; It is a typhoon effect of socialization. Obesity and its high rate of increase takes a few paths but ultimately the goal or social effect leads to acceptance. This isn’t acceptance just in dating, but in friendship as well. As our world and our eyes adjust, they adjust to a big belt size. One is inclined to say that it doesn’t matter as long as your  healthy. The question is, is it that simple?

In this series we are going to look at a scientific and real world look at mixed weight dating.
Are overweight people less likely to be married? What are the other issues that one must deal with in a relationship of mixed weight? Does it really matter if a spouse gains fat overtime? These questions and more are going to be answered.

Why your friends want you fat


12 Dec


Ever since I was a tiny thing I watched people. I love people watching, I love people who love to watch people. People are absolutely fascinating.

I would be full of it if I said I didn’t notice what people wore, their style, their mannerisms, their confidence, and yes, their weight. There is a difference of course between noticing who someone is, and judging them because of who they are. If you watch hard enough, you can see the character in someone pretty easily. If you really know how to look for it, it shines bright as day. Character is something that you can’t hide. It is your love, your morality, your passion, and your wits. They who said never judge a book by its cover, never read any books. A bad cover says everything I need to know and more. This brings me to yesterday afternoon at 1:24pm.

You would think a coffee shop at the early afternoon wouldn’t be a prime spot to watch dating action but often a lot of “day dates” take place and I can’t help but watch. Sure, I am catching up on research and planning the rest of my day out, but come on, I am only human. So like any other day I sat there “working” and catching pieces of the conversation and happenings of the table next to me.

At this four top table sat two women and two guys. Based on their appearance I tagged them as all being in their 30’s. The guys looked as if they just stepped out of the “Office” and the girls were dressed to the brim with rocker “thrift” labels and bags the size of a 5th grader. Likely the combined tables music taste read like a who’s who of pitchfork magazine (or insert elitist indie rock review website here). Obviously the guys were having to slum it for the corporate “man” but worry not for them, in 10 years they will be running a cartoon website and sell t-shirts of states.

As the 4 of them sat there it became apparent that one of the guys/girl pair had made a match and the other had made an crash and burn. It was obvious that one was more shy than they other, that they needed a little opening up. Quickly to the rescue their friend makes an even more awkward conversation worse by suggesting the two sit closer together. If any of you ever saw this painful event happen across school cafeterias everywhere as a teenager then you know how horrible this is to watch. It is quite a boost though for the friend who is saying it isn’t it?

See while it may seem that this friend is just “trying to help” what this “friend” is really doing is demonstrating that they have a higher value than you. They are putting on the display that they are the “hot one”, that they are the “cool one.” This is the furthest thing from the truth because a good friend, a “cool one”, would never be that stupid and basically kill your chances of looking like you have value in front of your potential date. No, thanks to this friend the “shy” has gone to “mortified.” Just when I think it can’t get any worse, they pat on their friends stomach and say “He’s just shy cause he needs to lose a few, it’s okay dude, more to love!”

What a jackass.

You weren’t sure if it was the guy or girl till then were you? Doesn’t matter, story is true all around.

The guy that says this to his “buddy” is a twigg, no muscle, and could use to add a few pounds himself. Still he is flying high because he has his designated “fat friend” around to help him feel better about himself. He is always going to look like a better choice, and his false confidence plays as the real thing to those who don’t have a BS radar.

What can his buddy do? Sure he could get another friend, but if your out there my man I have a better suggestion. Take some of that muscle mass I saw on that frame of yours, knock some fat off of it, start lifting like a freaking god, and 6 months later give him a pat on the back and say “better luck next time” as you walk away with the prettiest girl in the room.

http://fatlosstroubleshoot.com

Big Meal Challenge: The Results and The Winner


16 Nov

I can’t believe it is over already! Man how time does fly when you are having fun and really this was a great time for me because I got to torture them.

First for those of you new to the game let me remind you how it started. You can find the first challenge post here.

http://avidityfitness.net/2008/10/17/action-assignments-for-new-life-and-body-the-challenge/

Caught up? Great!

I have a video coming up but wanted to get the Midnight results in. I had to wait on a last min check in so the video is coming and should be up by morning. Without further ado here are the final results of the challenge and my crew!

Holy Crap you are not going to believe these results.

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Nope, you can’t handle it yet….

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Okay okay fine….

Aleks

Was 233 Now 222.4

Total Weight Loss- 11.4
Bf% Lost-4.1%

Pauline Stats

Was 108.5 Now 104.5

Total Weight Loss-4 pounds
Total Inches Lost-5 inches
Bf% lost-1.5-2.0%
Push up Increase-From 3 to 16

Mike

Was 224 Now 220

Total Weight Loss-4 pounds
Total Inches Lost-9 inches
BF% Lost-4.5%

Karen

Was 129  Now 124.8

Total Weight Loss-4.2 pounds
Total Inches Lost-7 inches
Bf% lost-2.0%

Annelle

Was 151 Now 139.8

Total Weight lost-11.2
Total Inches Lost-8
BF% Lost-3.8%

AND THE WINNER WITH 22 POUNDS LOST IN 30 DAYS?!!

JIM!

Jim Stats

Was 241 Now 219

Total Weight Loss-22 pounds
Total Inches Lost-16 inches
BF% lost-5.5% body fat

I can’t believe it, more to come!

Edit: Here is the You Tube dedication Video!

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PS-Still more to come, I am off to bed!

The Fat Loss Troubleshooter – Leigh Peele

Common Sense Meets Advanced Knowledge