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What is the measure of your worth?


23 Jan

I couldn’t tell you what I am worth. My value is not something that I have ever tried to measure. If it was based off of the luck of people you have known in your life, then my worth is priceless.

I got a card the other day from a challenge player I worked with during the OBM. It was full of heartfelt sentiments, humor, and a lot of glitter. In fact, I think there may still be glitter embedded in my skin. The card was simple. They thanked me for what I have done.

That day I was questioning my path a little. Not my job so much, I love my job. I was questioning my approach. It isn’t easy being the person who so often runs against the crowd. It isn’t easy knowing you have burned bridges, not based on your work, or your personality. That you burned those bridged based on the research and being able to say the word “depends.” The behind the scenes of this game can be a tough one, and one that sometimes I ask the question “is it worth it?”

Then I get a card like this in the mail, and I realize yes, yes it is. So what if this isn’t an easy path? Easy paths are boring and lead to mediocrity. Rough paths could lead to a disaster, but at least you braved the journey and took a chance on fate. I have to take that chance, I was born for it. Were you?

It is time for you to take a measure of your worth.

  • How many choices do you make in a day that better yourself?
  • How often in a day are you working towards your greater good?
  • Are you just drifting along in a sea of mundane?
  • Are you letting the lack of the “right moment” halt any moments?
  • How are you grading your worth?

I am not so overly simplistic as to say that you can just snap your fingers and life will change. On the contrary, it takes planning. It takes years of effort, frustration, patience, and hope. It takes moments over and over again of saying to yourself that you aren’t crazy, that you do matter, and that you can make this life great.

The measure of your worth is not what you have.

The measure of your worth is what your life asks of you everyday, and what you give it in return.

What are you worth today?

Winners of the “Body Fat Solution Essay” contest are…


10 Jan

First off, thank you everyone for writing to me and expressing how you feel.  The people who won weren’t necessarily picked because they had the “best” essay. Just as those who didn’t win lost because theirs weren’t good enough. I picked based on who, at this time, I feel would benefit most from Tom’s book and the way The Body Fat Solution was written.  With that said, the winners are…

Marcia

and

Sean

I left out your emails/last names to protect your identity, but please feel free to post comments here if you desire. You should get an email in a few minutes asking for your address. If you did not get one then PLEASE contact me through the contact form with your home or work address to receive your book.

I hope the book inspires you, and helps you make things click in way that might have not before.

Here are the winning essays.

Marcia’s Essay

In thinking about what the future means to me, I realize that it becomes a two
part question.  What has the future meant to me and what do I want the future to
mean to me?

I have spent most of my life being profoundly dissatisfied with myself.  I have
never been pretty “enough”, smart “enough”, thin “enough” or strong
“enough”.  Therefore, the future has always been the place I lump my
desires.  The present was when nothing was ever “enough” and so the future
was the time when everything would be “enough”.  The future was defined by
“after”: “after” I lose (more) weight, “after” I get my children
raised, “after” I learn to lift weights.  There was hope there and the
expectation that things would be better then.  All things would be better,
obviously, and they would be the way I imagined it.  All the things wrong with
“now” would be fixed and righted.  I thought this was the way to live—to
set goals and to improve yourself constantly.  I thought this was a good thing,
that trying to better yourself and strive for more, more, more was the answer to
leading a productive life.

However, as the years passed the future became more undefined, more gray, and
more murky.  And ironically, the future got closer.  It was no longer
“after” the children are raised;  it became “after” the holidays are
finally over, “after” the next birthday, “after” this busy week.  The
problem was that “after” was always followed closely by another “after”.
 I was struggling through event after event with the only goal being to get
things over with.  I was wasting my life in dissatisfaction waiting everything
to be over so I could make myself into who I wanted to be.  And while I made
progress towards who I wanted to be, it really was still never “enough”.

So what do I want the future to mean?  I want to consider the future
irrelevant.  I want to live in the present and learn to enjoy that, with all its
stresses and chores.  I want to be satisfied with who I am and how I am.    I do
not want to give up on goals or trying to better myself.  But I want to do it in
a way that is full of happiness and hope.  In a way marked with enthusiasm and
pride.  I want to be proud of not just where I am going, but of where I am and
of how I am getting there, and even of where I’ve been.  Most of all, I want
to better myself not because I hate where I am.  I want to better myself simply
because I can.  With that mindset, the future becomes simply a series of events.
Because my life would no longer be defined by the events, my life would be
defined by who I am.  And that would finally be “enough”.

Sean’s Essay

Future is an interesting word.  Interesting in the sense that it represents
merely a snapshot of what we hope to be, as people, given our current
circumstances.

Now (this point in time) is not the future we have predicted in days, months or
years previous.  It is not the static moment in time we usually envision it to
be.  It\'s an idea, a theory; a reflection of our true self.

Everyone wants to be better off.  That\'s a given.  However, there are plenty
of people who think the \"future\" is bleak.  Especially considering the current
economic situation or whatever it is that could be considered the \"doom and
gloom\" subject of the time.  These people view the future as a foregone
conclusion; fate.  A static moment in time.  A moment in time that fastly
approaches as each dreadful moment passes.

We all have people like this in our lives.  The subject matter of \"future\" is
subjective; it does not need to be of large scale.  

The husband who dreads returning home to his nagging wife.  The employee whom
only looks forward to that last second of work.  Only, when it arrives they
shift focus and look forward to that last moment of their commute.  When that
arrives, they look forward to the moment they can finally lay their head down.
The money-centrist who lives and dies, on a daily basis, with the swings of the
stock market.  Starting each day with an expectation.  Ending each day with
jubilation or dispair.

All of these people view the \"future\" as a static moment in time.  A moment
that one must only endure time itself to reach.  A moment that culminates and
passes.  This thoughts process speaks volumes about the individual.  It speaks
volumes about how they feel about themselves, their ambitions and others around
them.

I, however, chose to view \"future\" as an idea; a theory.  A simple
understanding that tomorrow I will be better then I am today.  Not by luck or by
fate, but by choice.  I will be better tomorrow because of the conscious
decisions I am making \"now\"; the present.  There will be challenges, obstacles
and set backs; that is a given.  But I have the utmost confidence in my ability
to grow, persevere and get \"better\".  Again, not by luck or by fate, but by
choice, because I have willed it so.

Most people view the \"future\" as simply the process of ascending the mountain
of life.  Markers along the trail.  Spots that one must reach and pass through
in order to attain the ultimate summit.  We don\'t get there \"one step at a
time\".  No.  We get there \"one correct step at a time\".  Those correct steps
must then be made with the utmost precision and dedication.  Everyday one must
make the right decisions in order to summit their own mountain.

Everyone has a different mountain to climb.  Different heights, inclines and
weather conditions.  It, however, is not a race.  Everyone summits their
personal mountain eventually.  However those who make the correct choices in the
present, instead of starring at the peak that we call \"future\", will get to
enjoy the view much longer then others.

Events and People to Watch in 2009


31 Dec

Sometimes you get so lucky with who you get a chance to talk to that you have to brag a little. Information on health and training isn’t just about the information, it is also about the person. Recently I have been hit hard with how important it is to surround yourself with good people. That isn’t to say that these people aren’t brilliant or that they are boring either. I am just saying they are that good.

There are also some amazing things that are happening and events coming. Here is my short, but important list of what to watch for in 2009.

(In particular order of awesomeness)

1. Tom Venuto

This isn’t a “upcoming” list, it is a “lookout!” list.  Tom, meet world. World, get ready to say hello to Tom.  On Jan 8th the Body Fat Solution is going to launch and I am putting my money on Tom to go to legendary status. The book is amazing. I have a full video review of it coming for you. In short, it will be the best diet book on shelves, period. I am not even going to link you to it because I want everyone to get it that day and help raise him up to the top of that best sell list. In the meantime you can grab burn the fat, I highly recommend it.

2. Alan Aragon

I am not going to lie, I am 100% bias in this situation because I downright love the man. Yes, I said it, love the man. Brilliant? Check. Trustworthy? Check. Impeccable research? Check. Funny? Check.

You want it, he has got it. I don’t know exactly what is coming up next, but I can assure you, it will be epic.
Please do yourself a favor and get yourself a copy of Girth Control or join the monthly research review. There isn’t a affiliate program, so when you check out in the comments section please write “Thank you Alan, you swole sexy studmuffin.”

PS-Especially write this if you are a guy.

3. JP Fitness Summit 2009

Would you like to get a chance to hang out with me, Alan Aragon, Jamie Hale, and Lou Schuler for a weekend?
We may speak for a few hours, but the rest of the time we are going to be having a great time, eating some food, I will NOT be singing karaoke dammit, and in short, it will be a blast. You can talk to me, ask me anything you want, and have a weekend to remember. By the way, I get nothing for you buying, and if no one comes I am still going to have a blast. Go grab a ticket.

4. FLzine

Hint #1: FL does not stand for Fat Loss.

Hint#2 : Are you excited about a new forum, audio, interviews, free ebooks, and the best information you can find on the net?

Hint#3: Are you down for helping me out because I am going to need you. Moderators, writers, editors, and readers.

Where making our own rules, we are going to have our own voice now.  If you want to be apart of it, please, just let me know. The only qualifications you need?

Integrity
Honor
Humor
Compassion
Thirst For Knowledge
The Desire for Change

If you don’t have those things, then no need to apply.

Why your friends want you fat


12 Dec


Ever since I was a tiny thing I watched people. I love people watching, I love people who love to watch people. People are absolutely fascinating.

I would be full of it if I said I didn’t notice what people wore, their style, their mannerisms, their confidence, and yes, their weight. There is a difference of course between noticing who someone is, and judging them because of who they are. If you watch hard enough, you can see the character in someone pretty easily. If you really know how to look for it, it shines bright as day. Character is something that you can’t hide. It is your love, your morality, your passion, and your wits. They who said never judge a book by its cover, never read any books. A bad cover says everything I need to know and more. This brings me to yesterday afternoon at 1:24pm.

You would think a coffee shop at the early afternoon wouldn’t be a prime spot to watch dating action but often a lot of “day dates” take place and I can’t help but watch. Sure, I am catching up on research and planning the rest of my day out, but come on, I am only human. So like any other day I sat there “working” and catching pieces of the conversation and happenings of the table next to me.

At this four top table sat two women and two guys. Based on their appearance I tagged them as all being in their 30’s. The guys looked as if they just stepped out of the “Office” and the girls were dressed to the brim with rocker “thrift” labels and bags the size of a 5th grader. Likely the combined tables music taste read like a who’s who of pitchfork magazine (or insert elitist indie rock review website here). Obviously the guys were having to slum it for the corporate “man” but worry not for them, in 10 years they will be running a cartoon website and sell t-shirts of states.

As the 4 of them sat there it became apparent that one of the guys/girl pair had made a match and the other had made an crash and burn. It was obvious that one was more shy than they other, that they needed a little opening up. Quickly to the rescue their friend makes an even more awkward conversation worse by suggesting the two sit closer together. If any of you ever saw this painful event happen across school cafeterias everywhere as a teenager then you know how horrible this is to watch. It is quite a boost though for the friend who is saying it isn’t it?

See while it may seem that this friend is just “trying to help” what this “friend” is really doing is demonstrating that they have a higher value than you. They are putting on the display that they are the “hot one”, that they are the “cool one.” This is the furthest thing from the truth because a good friend, a “cool one”, would never be that stupid and basically kill your chances of looking like you have value in front of your potential date. No, thanks to this friend the “shy” has gone to “mortified.” Just when I think it can’t get any worse, they pat on their friends stomach and say “He’s just shy cause he needs to lose a few, it’s okay dude, more to love!”

What a jackass.

You weren’t sure if it was the guy or girl till then were you? Doesn’t matter, story is true all around.

The guy that says this to his “buddy” is a twigg, no muscle, and could use to add a few pounds himself. Still he is flying high because he has his designated “fat friend” around to help him feel better about himself. He is always going to look like a better choice, and his false confidence plays as the real thing to those who don’t have a BS radar.

What can his buddy do? Sure he could get another friend, but if your out there my man I have a better suggestion. Take some of that muscle mass I saw on that frame of yours, knock some fat off of it, start lifting like a freaking god, and 6 months later give him a pat on the back and say “better luck next time” as you walk away with the prettiest girl in the room.

http://fatlosstroubleshoot.com

In the waiting line…


22 Nov

This week has been short of amazing. Next week might just rival. I have good news and I have bad news.

Good News: The good news is that I have been involved in a very cool training assignment for a “local” studio. Studio as in film. I know what you are thinking, how can being in Greensboro NC have anything like that to offer? They don’t, ha. However, 3 hours away they do and I am on board. I will keep name dropping for other people but I can say that it doesn’t hurt to have more social proof and for whatever reason why people on that telly help and I will leave it at that.

Bad News: Since I am going to be traveling so much the next few weeks, the holidays are coming, and have a new site launch coming up there is going to be a hiatus until December. I know, I know you are going to miss me but I will still be all over the place. In fact, those of you who have a Facebook page need to add me because I just set mine up!

http://www.facebook.com/people/Leigh-Peele/543870095

I assure you when back it will be better than ever and I will bring goodies. Sometimes you have to stop to move forward ;) In the meantime…

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The Four Steps to Six Pack Abs and the One Secret Exercise


02 Sep

Going from that left picture to the right isn’t that complicated. I have and will do it time and time again. I am one of the few trainers to admit that there is a difference between training men and women. Some may not like it, but the truth is that it is a real thing, and my ability to help women achieve things they never thought possible made my touch to men, well, their biggest fantasy.

I have said it once, and I will say it again. If you can get women to lose fat with ease and maintain or gain muscle, then there isn’t much you can’t do with a guy. So guys, this one is for you.

Step 1: Understand the base you are working with.

If you are dealing with nothing but a bunch of tub underneath tub then you aren’t likely going to shed into a magnificent six pack. It takes muscle to achieve a six pack of abs and shedding the fat on top of it may not be enough.

Step 2: Understand that shedding fat, a lot of it, has to happen.

For some of you a six pack may very well be there, but you aren’t understanding how low in bodyfat and sometimes weight you are going to need to get.  For example, if you are a newbie jumping into the game you are going to have to get really lean to see a six pack or to build your starting point to build one. The first picture is a build of six pack not a cut into one. The average male model with a six pack weighs 149-169 pounds and are 6′0.

Step 3: Understand you have to eat to put on muscle

Men get just as caught in the cycle of dieting down/bulk cycle and just like women can cheapen the “bulk” part. To put on muscle you are going to have to eat for it. You can’t skimp a bulk. This doesn’t mean you have to eat yourself out of house and home, no but you need to feed the muscle.

Step 4: You will likely have to train your abs

I know, I am waiting for a picture of the powerlifter that doesn’t directly train his abs to pop up. Here is the thing, unless you have been training and lifting with extreme intensity for years and years then that non-direct ab work isn’t going to cut it. You are going to need to directly train your abs to add on muscle.

Remember some guys started out life at 15 lifting and benching with their buddies. They have many years behind them just at the age of 21. If you are starting out late then you need to remember that you have time to make up for. The older you are the harder that gets. Don’t neglect the importance of good ole fashion ab work.

Bonus: The One Secret Exercise

I am going to come clean with you, this exercise isn’t exactly “secret.” It is just a fantastic and easy way to train at percentage of max with your ab work, which is a big reason that adding size to your abdominals can become a problem. I present to you the Kneeling Cable Crunch.

http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/RectusAbdominis/CBKneelingCrunch.html

The Fat Loss Troubleshooter – Leigh Peele

Common Sense Meets Advanced Knowledge