Posts Tagged ‘obesity’

Mixed dating: The courtship of obesity


17 Dec

Disclaimer:Let me warn you that this is a very sensitive topic, I am a very straight forward person, and am going to be using common sense, scientific data, and life experiences. This is a very generalized topic and is not going to be true for everyone. Please continue reading with understanding that I am not judging or claiming a right or wrong. This is simply a read of human character.

In my previous post I started the discussion of mixed relations in the aspect of weight and how it affects a relationship. What better place to start than how you pick your mate?

The process of mate selection for human beings is different from culture to culture and has evolved with the ages. Long ago the majority choose a mate purely on the ground of livelihood. If your mate could feed you or have children that was good enough. That isn’t to say there wasn’t always a rebel or two that caused a uproar in the normal flow of things. However, the majority of the time people chose mostly out of safety, and at best for love.

Flash forward to a time of internet dating, mail order brides, maxim magazine, and Flavor of Love. I think you will find that things are a little different. Self independence and prosperity is possible for both sexes. The ability to have children isn’t dependent on a penis and a vagina. Lastly, food is everywhere in advanced societies so the need to find a mate based solely on those past needs are getting cut more and more everyday. If those aren’t leading the ranks of why we pick a mate, what is?

There are many factors that have to do with education and status. This has always been a factor and will continue to be so. However their are other factors and expectations they weren’t always such a big issue that now are. How you look, the health you convey, and the body you have is now a extreme contributing factor. Studies and survey’s around the world are showing time and time again that the weight and appearance of a person plays a very large role in if they are found to be dating material or not. The question is, why?

If you say because “fat people are ugly” you would be wrong. Studies show that it isn’t the physical attraction to the person that is the issue, it is the underlying factors instead. For example, one study shows that on average medical costs are 36% higher for obese adults than their non-obese partners. Other studies also show that those who are largely overweight make a smaller percentage of pay vs those who have a healthier BMI. Obesity is also highly prevalent in low educated households, and the children of obese parents have a higher likely hood to drop out of high school.

When we combine all that above this means that through one scan of the eyes the average person when on approach for dating material can see someone who is obese as unhealthy, uneducated, and not financially secure.  Obviously this is not true in all cases, but now if you find yourself in this position, not only do you have to worry about your own insecurities of being physically under par to yourself, you have to worry about your whole level of worth being judged from education to finance. Because of this overwhelming pressure, studies show that the mate you choose is going to be constantly less than your instinctual set standards because you feel that this is the best you can do. The cycle then starts of the problems in the relationship.

What about those of you who beat obesity or are in the effort of trying? Congratulations on not being able to shake your feelings of not being good enough, and the constant feeling of not living up to the standards of your counter part. Constantly those who are overweight will put “being fat” on the high list of problems in a relationship before they will put “living in self doubt.” Mixed couples fight more about cheating, have more short term separations, and will settle more in abusive relationships on average than couples who share in the same activities and physical physique. It is a lot more likely that one of you is nice and the other is a jerk.

The question is does this really have to do with your BMI?  No, not really. It isn’t about BMI, that is just a side effect. That is merely the scapegoat for the problem.  The problem is self worth and self esteem.  Usually those who were married pre-obesity have less problems than those who go into the courtship already overweight. With marriage there is a level of knowing what can be there again if desire or a deep understanding of the person in when they felt their best. Since the person saw the “real” you at a point, even if you are insecure now, there is still enough of you there in them that you are able to maintain a high level of happiness and trust. You live in the world of “it is just a matter of time.”

For those who enter into a relationship already overweight, since they drag in insecurities they already are hiding a part of their true self. Relationships that are built off of false pretense never work. What if that was the only relationship you could ever build because you were that unhappy with who you are?  If this sounds familiar then welcome to the courtship of obese dating.

Tips for surviving the world of obese dating:

#1-Lose fat…if you want to.

I am going to be honest, I have never met someone who wanted to be fat. I have met people who decided they didn’t want to try, that they were going to accept themselves for who they were, but at the end of the day would choose to weigh less. Maybe one day we will cross paths.

#2-Live as if you have achieved your goal.

If you live as a fatty, are depressed about it, cry about it, whine about it, then you are it. It is all you are and who wants to be around that. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. Your job is to live it until you are it.

#3-Demand respect.

I live my life by one motto. Demand respect. That doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole either, I am quite likable. I go out of my way to help people, I like people. I like the human race, sometimes. You don’t have to be a doormat to be liked, you don’t have to think the world is doing you a favor because you have short comings. Demand the respect you deserve and if you don’t get it then move on and fast.

Next up we will talk about Mixed relationships: For better or for worse

Mixed dating: Being the fat one in a relationship


15 Dec

Disclaimer:Let me warn you that this is a very sensitive topic, I am a very straight forward person, and am going to be using common sense, scientific data, and life experiences. This is a very generalized topic and is not going to be true for everyone. Please continue reading with understanding that I am not judging or claiming a right or wrong. This is simply a read of human character.

I had a different post planned for today but I received such an email response to Friday’s post that I felt it necessary to touch on a readers concern. In short, the reader wanted me to address the issues of being the “fat partner” and it’s effect on you physically and mentally.  I wanted to keep their identity private but highlight and start with a pretty truthful expression of human condition.

I still feel horrified on a daily basis even though he doesn’t persecute me or drag me around on his arm because I’m fat and he’s not. I still feel like I need to make up for being fat. And that because I’m fat I’m not marriable. I mean whenever you see someone on tv who has just lost a bunch of weight you always hear how they finally met someone who loves them beyond all measure.

People are getting fatter?

When you grow up in the land of buttermilk biscuits, sausage gravy, pecan pie, and tea so sweet it could fuel a car, it is hard to think that obesity is growing. I can’t remember a time where the majority of the adults I saw around me weren’t noticeably overweight. However, based on current research In the United States the prevalence of obesity for adults twenty to 74 years of age has increased from fifteen percent in the late 1970s to 32.2 percent in 2003-2004. From 2000 to 2005 alone, the prevalence of obesity rose 24 percent.

This kind of increase isn’t a small drizzle on social change; It is a typhoon effect of socialization. Obesity and its high rate of increase takes a few paths but ultimately the goal or social effect leads to acceptance. This isn’t acceptance just in dating, but in friendship as well. As our world and our eyes adjust, they adjust to a big belt size. One is inclined to say that it doesn’t matter as long as your  healthy. The question is, is it that simple?

In this series we are going to look at a scientific and real world look at mixed weight dating.
Are overweight people less likely to be married? What are the other issues that one must deal with in a relationship of mixed weight? Does it really matter if a spouse gains fat overtime? These questions and more are going to be answered.

Vitamin D: The Real Facts,Truths, and Sources of The Sun Vitamin


13 Oct

Originally Posted at Figure Athlete.com by Leigh Peele

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When you research, read, and watch the news as much as I do, you can see the new nutrient and supplement trends coming a mile away. Sometimes they’re valid, other times they aren’t. I can say for certain to buckle up and hop on the D-train because it’s here to stay. In fact, this isn’t a newly found miracle baby; this is an age old savior that we’ve been neglecting.

What is Vitamin D?

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Vitamin D is a fat soluble steroid hormone (and if we weren’t playing fast and loose with the terminology, it technically isn’t a vitamin at all). The main job of vitamin D is to maintain normal blood levels of calcium and phosphorus. Note that’s the main job. It’s said that over 200 genes are affected by vitamin D. It doesn’t matter where you turn, its uses are everywhere. Bone, heart, insulin, depression, pain, happiness, cancer, fibromyalgia, thyroid… you name it, vitamin D plays a role.

Michael F. Holick, a leading researcher on the importance of vitamin D, has said that “Vitamin D deficiency is the disease of neglect.”

And he couldn’t be more right.

The cure for rickets — a widespread epidemic in the children of the softening of the bones — was found by sticking children on the roof of a building. Can you sit there and take that in for a moment? An illness that was making the limbs of children turn into mush was cured by the sun.

You may wonder what this has to do with you,  but bones should be your pride and joy. Not to mention the fact that recent studies show an alarming rate of newborns and mothers are becoming more and more deficient. Are past problems coming back to bite us in our vitamin-deficient rears?

Beyond just bones, being too low in vitamin D can lead to a decrease in thyroid function. Although not directly involved in synthesis or secretion, a deficiency can produce increases in the levels of parathyroid hormone.

On the wellbeing side, an increased occurrence of depression and a decrease in mental focus have been found time and time again. There are also links that have shown women who supplement with vitamin D may lose fat easier than those who don’t.

Currently, the desired levels are 30 to 75 ng/mL-nmol/L, and anything less is seen as deficient, though higher doesn’t necessary mean you’re at a toxic level. The concern is for consistent levels above the 200 range.

The bottom-out number should really be 30; however, we’re seeing study after study show that levels are constantly hitting below this all around the world, and the aftereffect is becoming an epidemic.

ng/mL nmol/L Status
< 11 < 27.5 These levels suggest severe illness, usually seen in rickets or sick infants.
< 10-15 < 25-37.5 While not directly or instantly crippling, these levels overtime may contribute to illness both acute and chronic.
≥ 30 ≥ 75 Seen by some to be the desired range and achieving of optimal health.
Consistently > 200 Consistently > 500 Could be toxic and lead to hypercalcemia and hyperphosphatemia.

Serum 25-hydroxyvitamin D [25(OH)D] concentrations and health

How Do You Get It?

Vitamin D is the “sun vitamin,” meaning that you should receive 80 to 100% of your intake from the sun. When ultraviolet (UV) rays hit the skin, they’re absorbed and converted, setting into motion your body’s process of creating vitamin D. In truth, this should be the end all for receiving your daily intake.

However, things just aren’t that simple.

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What About Food Intake?

Vitamin D can be found in small amounts in certain fishes, fortified milks, and egg yolks.

The problem is that the intake would have to consist of very high levels and multiple times daily to give you the effects you need. It also would depend on the quality of your food. With fish, for instance, it’s been shown that farmed salmon (fish raised in tiny boxes eating crappy fish food) held at least 25% less vitamin D than wild-caught salmon.(1)

Take-home point being, if you think that the Wal-Mart fish nutrients are doing something for you, think again. What they eat is what you eat. As well, the fortified milk and cereal claims of vitamin D can be off by as much as 80% of what the label says.

Here’s a chart that gives you a general rundown of food sources for vitamin D:

Food IU per serving Percent DV
Cod liver oil, 1 tablespoon 1,360 340
Salmon, cooked, 3.5 ounces 360 90
Mackerel, cooked, 3.5 ounces 345 90
Tuna fish, canned in oil, 3 ounces 200 50
Sardines, canned in oil, drained, 1.75 ounces 250 70
Milk, nonfat, reduced fat, and whole, vitamin D-fortified, 1 cup 98 25
Margarine, fortified, 1 tablespoon 60 15
Ready-to-eat cereal, fortified with 10% of the DV for vitamin D, 0.75-1 cup (more heavily fortified cereals might provide more of the DV) 40 10
Egg, 1 whole (vitamin D is found in yolk) 20 6
Liver, beef, cooked, 3.5 ounces 15 4
Cheese, Swiss, 1 ounce 12 4

Selected food sources of vitamin D (2,3)

Differences in Vitamin D

Vitamin D comes in two main forms: vitamin D2 (ergocalciferol) and vitamin D3 (cholecalciferol). There’s a D1, D3, and D5, but in short, their importance and our control of them isn’t the main topic here.

Vitamin D2 is made by the UV irradiation of ergosterol in yeast, and vitamin D3 is made by the irradiation of 7-dehydrocholesterol from lanolin and the chemical conversion of cholesterol.

It’s suggested that D3 is far superior to D2 at raising levels in the body and holding them higher for extended periods of time.(4,5) Because of this, if you’re going the supplement route for your intake of vitamin D, D3 is the winner of the group.

The overall goal of vitamin D is to raise serum levels in the body and do so as best as possible. To date, both D2 and D3 supplements at prescription-grade levels have shown to do this. D2, however, has been shown to be toxic at higher levels. (It should be noted that you can’t achieve toxic levels of D in the body with just the sun.)

How Long is Too Long in the Sun?

This is the tricky part and most often misunderstood. Obviously, there’s plenty of data to back up that being in the sun too long without protection can lead to skin cancers. The flipside is that being in the sun too little might lead to cancer as well.

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You may think that applying some sunscreen will get you the best of both worlds, but sadly sunscreen has been shown to block upwards to 95% of vitamin D uptake from the sun.(6)

What are you to do?

A good solution is to spend fifteen minutes in the sun and then apply your sunscreen. It’s suggested that fifteen minutes a day can be enough. However, for a lot, that isn’t the case. And unless you’re living below 42 degrees North latitude (a line approximately between the northern border of California and Boston), in the wintertime you aren’t going to get it at all.(7)

Studies also show that if you’re African America or Hispanic then you need near double what Caucasians need.(8,9)

The Do’s and Don’ts of Vitamin D

If you find yourself stuck inside, above the magic line, or of darker skin, then you might need to look at better options of getting vitamin D.

1. Don’t be obese: Obesity blocks vitamin D intake by as much as 55%.

2. Don’t be scared of the sun: We’re a culture of extremes and look at where it’s got us. You need some sun, so don’t be afraid of it. Just call it quits before you burn like a lobster.

3. Do eat cod liver oil: Cod liver oil in supplement form is a really simple and easy way to get in lots of D3 during those months when you may not be able to.

4. Don’t be scared of the tanning bed: If you’ve ever known a friend with an iguana or turtle, then you know that in order to survive they need those ultraviolet exposures. Well, so do you!

Exposure to tanning beds resulted in a 100% increase in blood concentrations of vitamin D.(10) The problem is, just as with the sun, people take things too far. It’s a great way to get what you need in the winter months, but the same “don’t overdo it” rules apply.

5. Do get tested:
In general, you should be getting a full vitamin and mineral testing every six months. Is it time for a checkup?

6. Do hit the numbers: While 400 IU is the recommend dosage, there’s nothing wrong with getting 1,000 IU, especially from D3, and namely during the “off season.”

7. Do take this seriously: I’m not usually one for dramatics, but there are so many low level health problems that can lead to higher level problems, and issues from a vitamin D deficiency can be really simple to solve.

Take it seriously; get in your sun, get in your oils, and take advantage of the problems you can fix every chance you get.

References

1. An evaluation of the vitamin D3 content in fish: Is the vitamin D content adequate to satisfy the dietary requirement for vitamin D?

2. Nutrition Coordinating Center. Nutrition Data System for Research (NDS-R). Version 4.06/34. Minneapolis: University of Minnesota, 2003.

3. U.S. Department of Agriculture, Agricultural Research Service. USDA Nutrient Database for Standard Reference, Release 16. Nutrient Data Laboratory Home Page, 2003.

4. Houghton LA, Vieth R. The case against ergocalciferol (vitamin D2) as a vitamin supplement. Am J Clin Nutr 2006;84:694-7.

5. Nesby-O’Dell S, Scanlon KS, Cogswell ME, Gillespie C, Hollis BW, Looker AC, et al. Hypovitaminosis D prevalence and determinants among African-American and white women of reproductive age: third National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, 1988-1994. Am J Clin Nutr 2002;76:187-92.

6. http://www.ajcn.org/cgi/reprint/80/6/1678S.pdf

7. Cranney C, Horsely T, O’Donnell S, Weiler H, Ooi D, Atkinson S, et al. Effectiveness and safety of vitamin D. Evidence Report/Technology Assessment No. 158 prepared by the University of Ottawa Evidence-based Practice Center under Contract No. 290-02.0021. AHRQ Publication No. 07-E013. Rockville, MD: Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality, 2007.

8. Nesby-O’Dell S, Scanlon KS, Cogswell ME, Gillespie C, Hollis BW, Looker AC, et al. Hypovitaminosis D prevalence and determinants among African-American and white women of reproductive age: third National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, 1988-1994. Am J Clin Nutr 2002;76:187-92.

9. Yetley EA. Assessing vitamin D status of the U.S. population. Am J Clin Nutr. In press.

10. Holick, M. F. (2004). Vitamin D: importance in the prevention of cancers, type 1 diabetes, heart disease, and osteoporosis. American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 79, 362-371.

Can you be healthy and be fat? Does fat equal sick?


12 Aug

So um…how about that Queen Latifah post eh guys?

In my last post there were three main things that were misunderstood and need to be explained.

1-Being overweight means being unhealthy?

I never said that. I did say that “this is about understanding what 50 extra pounds of fat CAN do to the body.”

Folks need to really analyze my statement.

50 EXTRA pounds of FAT means that you are 50 pounds, of pure fat, over the ideal/healthy body fat range, leaving you in the land of Obesity. This is not a 5′4″ woman weighing 160 pounds that has 28% body fat. This is a 5′4″ woman weighing 200+ pounds that has 35%+ body fat. So your joints, sugar levels, hormone function…you name it are all impacted; your body will not be ideal or healthy. Sure, a short-term visit to obesity-land isn’t going to do much damage right away, but neither does smoking or drinking like a fish. However, you only have so long before those bad habits catch up with you and start costing a price.

I can show you a lot of information, from good studies, explaining how that kind of excess weight leads to problems. Sometime it can be as simple as just joint/energy-based impacts, but trust me, everything has a chain-and-effect result, and the little things add up in the aggregate.

2-Now, a look like Dana Torres can only come from 4 hours a day in the gym or with athletic training.

This is not a mythical body for a female. This does not take drugs. This does not take 4 hours in the gym everyday.

Again the lack of education is where the problem is, the naysayers aren’t getting it.

Now let me pre-face this by saying that her ACTUAL AB and BODY structure is as unique as…well her face is. Different people have different abs. Below is another example of about the same body fat percentage, but with a completely different ab structure.

Now while the second example is about the same amount of leanness and a very similar ab structure, this woman would have to get a little more ab muscle and a little lower in body fat to see the sort of “six pack” ab that Dana Torres has. Even then her abs might not be shaped the same way or ever as pronounced as in the first example.

The second example is also of a fitness model/bodybuilder, not an Olympic athlete. I know nothing about her except she posts from Figure Athlete.com. I merely went there to look for a picture example and almost immediately landed on what I needed. This is because women like this are everywhere and their approach is simple to do…if you know how. Notice I didn’t say easy to apply. The second example woman busted her butt and is in every way an “athlete” in her own sport. However, to achieve her results is more about watching your nutrition and training BALANCE than it is deprivation and aggressive movement.

3-Lastly it is thought, even though I stated it a few times, that I seem to think that “thin” means healthy. Not at all. Personally, I think common sense means healthy…but that is another topic.

In the case of the ever so popular growing “study” (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26143255/) that overweight people can be healthy, well there are some problems with the methodology.

One, the study wasn’t even a study, it was a research article. It was put together from data collected through various methods of surveys over 5 years. It wasn’t controlled either. In short, it was not a “study” in the scientific sense (not that there isn’t something that we can learn from the interesting, elaborate…article…of collected surveys).

However, can any real definitive answer of the health of Overweight people really be given from this “study”?

Nope, not a little, not even close.

So the moral of the story is: NEVER trust a news source spin on a study. Always read the actual study and if you can’t get your hands on it, there are usually big hints in the article itself like this…

From the MSN article:

The new study, appearing in the latest issue of the Archives of Internal Medicine, used government surveys from 1999 to 2004 that included lab tests and height and weight measurements. Participants reported on habits including smoking and physical activity.

This is no different than filling out a quiz for a magazine while sitting in the weighting room of the doctors office.

Overall my point is…

-You can be whatever it is you want to be.
-There is nothing to celebrate in, at best, joint stress and postural dysfunction from being largely overweight.
-I still think U.N.I.T.Y is one awesome song.
-Education and the facts will set you free.

Prince Chunk the fat cat…will be saved!


08 Aug

I read of lot of news feeds that have been tagged with “weight loss” or “exercise”. And I’ve read a lot of related studies as well, but I also like to see how those studies are turned around and changed.

This post, however, is not about studies.

Left and right I have seen report after report about a particular fat cat, aptly named Prince Chunk (see below).

You can read the full news story here.

Okay, now I love the kitties, so this isn’t hate to the kitties. And to the fat cat I am very happy for you, but what about the starved cats that I see everyday?

This report below was released today and I just had to die from laughing.

The big cat doesn’t have a thyroid condition, after all. The vet also has prescribed a high-protein diet for the tubby tabby, who is within three pounds of the heaviest on record.

It looks like the veterinarians get it better than our regular doctors. And from experience, I can tell you Pet Insurance is WAY better than human insurance.

So next time a client asks for a referral I am sending them to Southwoods Animal Hospital.

Oh, there is a second part to this post, so this is only the beginning…

Fight the good fight


25 Jun

This is going to be a short message today. “Short” because I am in the middle of an training onslaught, so let me get to it.

A client of mine today told me he was fighting the good fight. That he was winning the battle in the war on fat loss. He said this while being drenched in sweat and glowing with achievement.

He has lost 39 pounds, is 41 years old and is pretty close to getting abs for the first time in his life.

I asked him, while both in heavy breath, “what makes this fight different?”

He said “Because now I know what I am fighting!”

I just smiled.

Before he didn’t get it, he didn’t have the education. Now he does.

You still have to battle, there is still a war to be fought, you will fight it everyday. But would you prefer a sword or would you rather know your opponent’s every move before they made it?

Go here to read the mind of fat cells.

The Fat Loss Troubleshooter – Leigh Peele

Common Sense Meets Advanced Knowledge