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Mixed dating: The courtship of obesity

17 Dec

Tags: appearance, BMI, body, dating, everyone, fat dating, Fat Loss, fat sex, health, internet, livelihood, magazine, majority, obese, obesity, overweight, person, pressure, reading, relationship, relationships, safety, Studies, tips, unhealthy, weight loss dating
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Disclaimer:Let me warn you that this is a very sensitive topic, I am a very straight forward person, and am going to be using common sense, scientific data, and life experiences. This is a very generalized topic and is not going to be true for everyone. Please continue reading with understanding that I am not judging or claiming a right or wrong. This is simply a read of human character.

In my previous post I started the discussion of mixed relations in the aspect of weight and how it affects a relationship. What better place to start than how you pick your mate?

The process of mate selection for human beings is different from culture to culture and has evolved with the ages. Long ago the majority choose a mate purely on the ground of livelihood. If your mate could feed you or have children that was good enough. That isn’t to say there wasn’t always a rebel or two that caused a uproar in the normal flow of things. However, the majority of the time people chose mostly out of safety, and at best for love.

Flash forward to a time of internet dating, mail order brides, maxim magazine, and Flavor of Love. I think you will find that things are a little different. Self independence and prosperity is possible for both sexes. The ability to have children isn’t dependent on a penis and a vagina. Lastly, food is everywhere in advanced societies so the need to find a mate based solely on those past needs are getting cut more and more everyday. If those aren’t leading the ranks of why we pick a mate, what is?

There are many factors that have to do with education and status. This has always been a factor and will continue to be so. However their are other factors and expectations they weren’t always such a big issue that now are. How you look, the health you convey, and the body you have is now a extreme contributing factor. Studies and survey’s around the world are showing time and time again that the weight and appearance of a person plays a very large role in if they are found to be dating material or not. The question is, why?

If you say because “fat people are ugly” you would be wrong. Studies show that it isn’t the physical attraction to the person that is the issue, it is the underlying factors instead. For example, one study shows that on average medical costs are 36% higher for obese adults than their non-obese partners. Other studies also show that those who are largely overweight make a smaller percentage of pay vs those who have a healthier BMI. Obesity is also highly prevalent in low educated households, and the children of obese parents have a higher likely hood to drop out of high school.

When we combine all that above this means that through one scan of the eyes the average person when on approach for dating material can see someone who is obese as unhealthy, uneducated, and not financially secure. Obviously this is not true in all cases, but now if you find yourself in this position, not only do you have to worry about your own insecurities of being physically under par to yourself, you have to worry about your whole level of worth being judged from education to finance. Because of this overwhelming pressure, studies show that the mate you choose is going to be constantly less than your instinctual set standards because you feel that this is the best you can do. The cycle then starts of the problems in the relationship.

What about those of you who beat obesity or are in the effort of trying? Congratulations on not being able to shake your feelings of not being good enough, and the constant feeling of not living up to the standards of your counter part. Constantly those who are overweight will put “being fat” on the high list of problems in a relationship before they will put “living in self doubt.” Mixed couples fight more about cheating, have more short term separations, and will settle more in abusive relationships on average than couples who share in the same activities and physical physique. It is a lot more likely that one of you is nice and the other is a jerk.

The question is does this really have to do with your BMI? No, not really. It isn’t about BMI, that is just a side effect. That is merely the scapegoat for the problem. The problem is self worth and self esteem. Usually those who were married pre-obesity have less problems than those who go into the courtship already overweight. With marriage there is a level of knowing what can be there again if desire or a deep understanding of the person in when they felt their best. Since the person saw the “real” you at a point, even if you are insecure now, there is still enough of you there in them that you are able to maintain a high level of happiness and trust. You live in the world of “it is just a matter of time.”

For those who enter into a relationship already overweight, since they drag in insecurities they already are hiding a part of their true self. Relationships that are built off of false pretense never work. What if that was the only relationship you could ever build because you were that unhappy with who you are? If this sounds familiar then welcome to the courtship of obese dating.

Tips for surviving the world of obese dating:

#1-Lose fat…if you want to.

I am going to be honest, I have never met someone who wanted to be fat. I have met people who decided they didn’t want to try, that they were going to accept themselves for who they were, but at the end of the day would choose to weigh less. Maybe one day we will cross paths.

#2-Live as if you have achieved your goal.

If you live as a fatty, are depressed about it, cry about it, whine about it, then you are it. It is all you are and who wants to be around that. Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it. Your job is to live it until you are it.

#3-Demand respect.

I live my life by one motto. Demand respect. That doesn’t mean you have to be an asshole either, I am quite likable. I go out of my way to help people, I like people. I like the human race, sometimes. You don’t have to be a doormat to be liked, you don’t have to think the world is doing you a favor because you have short comings. Demand the respect you deserve and if you don’t get it then move on and fast.

Next up we will talk about Mixed relationships: For better or for worse

Are You a Fat Writer?

09 Oct

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When I was writing my books one of the biggest problems I faced when trying to control my weight and maintain the body I wanted was dealing with the harsh change of my activity level. I went from training people in person all day long to spending a large chunk of time stuck at a computer. Sure I was producing a masterpiece, but I was also producing an ass.

In a day we burn X amount of calories. Everyday it changes. If you have a day you lay in bed and do nothing, you burn very few calories. If you have a day where you shovel snow so that you can go to the store and shop for two hours and then return home to make food for another hour and then you try to get in that HIIT workout before bed, then you burn a lot of calories.

To put it simply, you move more, you burn more.

The drag is that if you move less, you burn less.

During that period of time as I was finishing up my books I went from a daily caloric burn of 2500-2800 calories on average to 1600-1900 on average (the days I was really caught up in writing).

That is a decrease of roughly 1000 calories. That is a huge difference, HUGE.

What if I would have been trying to lose fat?

Some days, even eating 1200 calories, I wouldn’t even land in a 500 deficit. That is a harsh truth to face. Recently I have had a lot of arguments come my way about the fact that the calories you take in don’t matter. Just don’t eat “x” amount of “these kinds” of foods and you will be fine. However, the majority of my clients that come to me come because even with doing those “things” right, even with restricting carbs, even with avoiding those “bad” foods like a plague, they still couldn’t budge the fat. They still could not obtain the bodies they wanted.

You can blame carbs or fats all you want but at the end of the day, a fat free salad can still cause you to be stuck in your fat loss efforts.

Quick Fact: If you weigh roughly 130-160 pounds, are a generally healthy person, then every hour you sit and write you burn the amount of 1 egg or less.

Try and wrap your head around that. The average large egg is roughly 70 calories. At that weight, you hardly burn an egg. The average writer/blogger/forum poster can spend hours at a time writing, ranting, and working up one heck of a cortisol filled appetite.

Have you ever noticed how when in the middle of a back and forth conflict you turn to food? Have you ever noticed that while in the midst of what should be your Pulitzer Prize winning smack down, that all you want to do is grab a ciggy or glazed doughnut? That is writers stress at its peak! The intensity and passion of your emotions in that given situation need to be fueled! But guess what, on average you barely deserve a hard boiled egg. Is what your grabbing even close to what you are burning?

Why do you lunge for the carbs?

The only thing that suppress that stress and feeds the angry rage or blissful muse is insulin spiking, sugar bearing, sweet carbohydrates. Your body is smart, it will grave what it needs, and if it is around, you are going to go for it. You either fix or you feed the stress, which will it be?

How do you fix the stress?

Getting up and moving in interval sets of time is a big help towards…

Keep caloric burn up so that you can eat more
Lower stress levels by reducing cortisol
Upping serotonin levels so that you aren’t in such a bad mood and wont fight on the interwbz

Beyond that knowing that your nutrient intake is on point and that your calories are under control is the next. If you don’t know how to do those things then I suggest reading those books I gained an ass for.

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If you can’t do that I am not going to leave you hanging. Here is the best tips to up your calories while still writing your master pieces and being able to stuff your face with hot pockets.

Tip #1-Timer Training

I did a study on 3 people just this past month who sit all day. The difference in caloric burn in timing training was an average of 340 calories a day per person. That is huge and with little effort. Timer training is very simple, all you do is set out specific intervals of time where you can fit in as much aggressive movement as possible in the shortest amount of time. I recommend every hour doing 5 min rounds of the following…

1 Min Jumping Jacks
1 Min Speed Crunches
1 Min Burpees
1 Min Fast Body Weight Squats (Advance to Pistols if need)
1 Min Planks

If you hit at that every hour for 8 hours that is a 30 mins workout that will lead you to getting ripped in no time.

EDIT: For the Skirt Ladies (or men cause you know, equal fat loss rights here). Kick off heels though okay ladies/gents.

1 min Jog in Place
1 min Push Ups (if bent knee throw a proposal under there;) )
2 Min Plank Variations (Standard, One Arm Switch, One Leg Switch, Side)
1 Static Lunges

Enjoy!

Tip #2- Pace Yourself

Every time you take a call you stand up and start pacing. Pacing during a phone call can increase your caloric burn 200% over sitting. Meaning in 20 mins instead of burning 20 calories you can burn 60.

Tip #3- The Unstable Air Chair

I did another study around 5-6 months ago know with 4 people and monitored their burn while sitting on a Swiss exercise ball while working. Posture and caloric burn improved on average of a little over 100 calories. Please note that some did experience hemorrhoid increase, so get the H if need.

Overall if you combine just these three things you can increase your daily burn, without going to the gym, and without losing writing time on large levels, by upwards to 500-600 calories a day. You can still write your award winning piece, and looking hot doing it.

How many hours a day do you normally sit? Should you just be eating eggs every hour on the hour?

5 Tips I Know For Fat Loss

23 Jul

Tags: diet, education, Fat Loss tip, hunger, Muscle, nibbling, overtraining, scale, support, tips, weight
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1-You can’t overtrain a bad diet.

Go ahead and bust your butt in that gym all you want but if you are still eating an excess of calories then you aren’t going to lose the excess bulge.

2- Sample-day at the stores might get you after all.

Nibbles can ruin your fat loss. Do me a favor and take the next week, just one week, and write down every single thing you put in to your mouth. Not the calories, just the food. Then write down what you “think” all that was calorie-wise. Now I want you to look it up. Yeah I know, sucks.

If you want to have a cookie, have a cookie! Just count the damn thing.

3-”Magic Muscle Growth” only counts if your body is actually changing.

Quick tip: if you really are putting on all that muscle that you are using to explain stalled scale weight, then your body would be changing as well. Muscle does hide scale weight, but it also shows a hot body. If you aren’t getting the hot body then re-check your efforts.

4-You will be hungry, tired, and angry.

I am one of the few trainers (in fact I don’t see this much of anywhere) that admits that this process should be hard. I don’t lie. It’s the lying and the “happy diet” approach that is getting people into so much trouble. This process sucks; I am honest about that. HOWEVER, you can do it and are awesome to even try. Remember love needs to follow tough.

5-You are not alone.

Right now I can easily give you a list of 50,000 thousand people, at the snap of my fingers, their contact info, who have cried this week because they are scared, frustrated, tired, hungry, happy, sad, proud, about to kill a loved one…all because of fat loss.

You are not in this alone. The education will guide you to getting this done faster, but the belief in yourself to do it is even more important. If you are finding you are failing yourself sometimes then do whatever it takes to find more support and take it home!

Fat loss expert makes gigantic breakthrough!

13 Jun

Tags: book, calories, clients, easy weight loss, eating, fat, Fat Loss, tips, Training, truth, videos
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If I eat 2,000 calories and…

sit on my butt all day, I gain weight.

Work a normal day of driving, clients, and general moving around…I would lose weight.

Work a normal day of driving, clients, general movement and then add training…I would lose at a massive rate.

This isn’t complicated, folks. This is living. You get to eat for what you move.

I was at the VZ Wireless forever yesterday night about to tip over I was so tired. This man was with his wife at the service center buying a phone. I was a bit irked because it was the repair area. Go to the regular section, buddy! However, my impatientness and cranky self was soon given an awakening by something he said.

The clerk has asked the man if he wanted all the features. Music, video, coffee maker, whatever. The man said “If it doesn’t make me money, I don’t put it in my phone. I don’t need all that, just people.”

What can you take from that and put toward fat loss?

Do you need all those complicated programs?
Do you need all that equipment and training props?
Do you need 2,000 books on different methods of fat mobilization?

Sure, they are all fun but do you NEED them?

If it isn’t giving you fat loss, you don’t need it in your arsenal. You don’t need all of that, just truth.

Diets DO work, dieting down for life doesn’t (Part 2)

02 Jun

Tags: book, dieting, Exercise, fat, Fat Loss, food, latin diet, latino fat loss, News, tips, Training, troubleshoot, weight loss
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I feel like I keep doing these important blog pieces during horrible weather. What’s up with that?

Right now I am held up in a corner at my local Barnes and Noble because yet another tornado/bad storm has affected our area. This time I was actually a little wigged by it. It was a “Hail gave us a Christmas in May” look for about 5 minutes. Good times!

Needless to say my home is out of power so I have dragged my gimp-looking self with hat and shades up to the bookstore for power.

On the way there I passed some fantastic diet books. My favorite title was, and I am not 100% sure of exact title, The Hot Latin Diet. Wow, brilliant! Being a pale white girl from the south I will take that diet any day.

I can only imagine what lies underneath that hot salsa-dancing cover. Can you? Bet you can! Bet if you really thought about it you could come up with that diet in your head.

Okay I will do it myself, in fact, I challenge someone to look at the same book next time they are at a bookstore and tell me if I am wrong. I really hope someone does it, ha!

Prediction of the Latin Hot Body Diet Book-

1-Eat less
2-Recipes that are full of color, life, and complicated to the average person
3-POWER FOODS! Since it is latino then it has to be foods like… chili’s, peppers, avocados, cilantro, Chick peas, rice, mangoes, and salmon.
4-I doubt there is a heavy focus on exercise that is technical. Maybe some tips, tales of dancing more and being more free in life and love. I am feeling more of an “herbs and breathing inner self” from the cover than new rules of lifting.

So let me know how I did, I am curious because now I really won’t pick it up!

Since I can pretty much bet money I am right, how can I do this?

How do I know that well what inside this book and be so cocky about it?

Because it has to be: that is what all diet methods are. It’s a METHOD to get you, the reader, to best enjoy your weight loss process as much as possible. They just don’t come out and say it like that.

See, I can write a thousand different programs that would fit with thousands of people. I just wrote a b-boy diet for a friend that would best cut the weight while provide the best for training for b-boy dancing and strength-building.

Tomorrow I will write up a program for a housewife who lives by a pool and loves water and the sun more than life itself. She will get her own kind of diet and training program. One that fits for working with vitamin intake she needs, nutrition optimization of her life, and training for her goals.

In the end the b-boy and lady by the pool are going to be doing the same thing…one guess as to what…

Question?

Did you have a method that worked for you in the past? Did you leave it for something flashier? Maybe the method wasn’t the problem, maybe the method was working. Maybe you just need to know why it was working?

No maybes about it, the why is right here…> The Fat Loss Troubleshoot

*Edit* I am posting this late because I had to do the hotel bit, but power and things seem all right in the world again!*

My Back is Not Hairy

28 Feb

Tags: Fat Loss, Julie Keen, Posture help, tips
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So why does this neat trick hurt so much? What neat treat you ask?

Well recently I sent a request to Julie Keen asking her for a favor on how to help a fellow friend out. I wanted to keep a better constant reminder and help her to fix a hunched posture. This is what she sent back…

Well, the easiest most inexpensive thing is to use athletic tape. Have her get into good posture, then run strips of tape along her back in a big X from one shoulder to the opposite hip (top of iliac crest is sufficient) and the other shoulder/hip. Make sure it is anchored well. Now any time she slouches, the tape will get tight and pinch a bit (pulling at those tiny hairs we all have!). But the reminder is useless without the additional mobility work to improve thoracic extension/rotation and strengthen the weak lengthen the short.

So note the bold, this isn’t going to magically fix your posture, but (ouch!) I tried it and it certainly keeps you on your posture toes.

Big props to Keen for the tip.